Safety & Privacy

Private by default

Your Attachment Map answers, lesson reflections, journal entries, saved practices, real-life pattern checklist, and Family Repair drafts are visible only to you. They are never shared.

Shared only by explicit action

There is one family-visible surface: Shared Reflections. A reflection appears there only because you chose to write it and place it there. Nothing else you do in the app is ever visible to family.

A private journal entry does not become shared. If you want to share something inspired by it, you create a separate shared reflection.

Not therapy, diagnosis, or crisis care

What I Couldn’t Say is a private learning and reflection tool. It does not diagnose, treat, or replace a clinician. If you are in danger or in crisis, contact local emergency services or a trusted crisis line.

Family visibility

• Only invited family members can access family-visible areas.
• Your private Attachment Map, Journal, Practices, and Repair drafts stay private.
• You choose what to place in Shared Reflections. That is the only family-visible surface.
• You can delete your own shared reflections and journal entries.
• You can reset your Attachment Map or delete your account from Account.

Invite-only access

There is no public registration. Invites are single-use so access stays limited to the people you intentionally include.

Basic activity stats

The app may record basic activity such as account creation, login, lesson completion, practice saves, journal entry count, and Shared Reflection count so the site owner can understand engagement. It does not show your journal text, answers, repair drafts, or private reflections.