Safety & Privacy

Private by default

Your Attachment Map answers, lesson reflections, journal entries, saved practices, and Family Repair drafts are visible only to you. They are never shared with family members or anyone else automatically.

Sharing is always explicit

Anything that appears in family-visible spaces — Shared Reflections, Family Space cards, weekly prompt responses, marked-shared resources — is there because you submitted it and confirmed you wanted it shared.

Posts are structured (type, title, prompt, response). There are no open threads, no comments on each other’s reflections, and no reactions beyond a small set of fixed acknowledgements.

This isn’t therapy

What I Couldn’t Say is a reflective tool. It is not therapy, diagnosis, or crisis care. It does not replace a clinician. If you’re in danger or in crisis, please contact local emergency services or a trusted helpline.

Family Space is structured on purpose. We don’t include open forums, threaded debates, or comments on each other’s cards. Healing in families is not improved by an argument feed.

Who can see what, and when

• Only people invited to your family circle can see family-visible content at all.
• Even within the circle, you choose what to post and when.
• You can delete a shared card or weekly response from Family Space at any time.
• You can delete an individual journal entry from your Private Journal at any time.
• You can reset your Attachment Map from Account.
• You can delete your account and all of your data from Account.

Invite-only by design

There’s no public sign-up, no feed, no audience — only people you’ve agreed to share a doorway with. Invites are single-use. Crossing the threshold is a deliberate act.